So the lovely and beautiful Romanian Mum tagged me to answer these questions, and I’ve got a LITTLE bit of time at the moment, so I thought I’d try it out. 🙂
1. Answer the 12 questions set by Kate
2. Tag as few or as many people as you like to do the same
3. Leave a comment on Kate’s original post so she can have a read of your answers
1. What was your happiest event?
For sure the happiest thing to happen last year was the birth of my beautiful son, Dexter David Douglas Reed. He came out of me in one push with very little fuss, and he was the most beautiful thing I’ve EVER seen. He made the entire year wonderful.
2. What was the saddest thing to happen?
I guess the saddest thing from last year was the first time Dexter got ill. I’ve never felt so helpless or distraught.
3. What was the most unlikely thing to happen that actually went ahead and did?
I know it sounds terrible, but despite her many promises, I never believed that my mother would make it over here for the birth. For years, she promised me that when I had my first child, she would be right there beside me, but with me living so far way in another country, and with her getting older and being afraid to fly, and with my dad’s bad health and Dex being due in the middle of winter… well I was sure that something would stand in her way. But although she was delayed by a few days due to bad weather her end, she got here. And she saw her grandson born. 🙂
4. Who let you down?
I think that Mark and I let ourselves down quite a lot. But then we were quick to pick each other up, too! Last Easter was the first time I felt like a failure as a mother (definitely not the last time, though!), as we hadn’t put any thought into doing anything for Dexter to celebrate his first holiday. But even though I didn’t write about it, in the end, we had a fabulous time and even a face-to-face meeting with a REAL (Easter) bunny in the backyard.
5. Who supported you?
This last year has been nothing but support. From my amazing partner, Mark who had my back every step of the way to my parents, who offered me encouragement and support and love from afar. My ex-husband and his girlfriend were willing babysitters when we really needed it, and my friend, Pat, was always there to lend an ear when I needed to vent. Friends and family on both sides were truly there for us every step of the way, and for that we are eternally grateful.
6. Tell us one thing you learned
I’ve learned so much in the last year. I learned how to get doctors to listen to you instead of letting them treat you like an idiot. I learned how to love unconditionally and accept that others are capable of loving ME unconditionally. I have learned that motherhood is the most rewarding thing in the world, but it also has the ability to make you feel like you are the worst person who ever lived. I’ve learned that you can’t blame others just because things get hard. I’ve learned that more people read this blog than I ever knew, and just because they don’t comment doesn’t mean they don’t care.
7. Tell us one thing that made you laugh
I’ll be honest… at the beginning of 2011, I had a smooth, care-free face to be envied. And now, at the beginning of 2012, I have creases and wrinkles galore. But you know what – they have all come from laughter. I don’t think there’s been another year of my whole life where I have laughed as hard or as long or as un-self-consciously as I did last year. My son kept me in constant giggles. My fiance gave me joyful exuberance. And my fellow blogging mothers gave me a million and one reasons to laugh uproariously!
8. Tell us one thing that made you cry
A lot of things made me cry. It has been a stressful (read: hormonal) and beautiful year. But one that stands out in my memory is the night I got a call from my mother that my father was in the hospital with a suspected heart attack.
9. Tell us three things your child or children did to make you feel proud
Well Dexter has come a LONG way this year. From that first time he smiled at us to the first time he rolled over (at only 6 weeks old!). The first time he sat up on his own to the first time he crawled. The first time he pulled himself up to standing to the first time he walked while holding our hands. When he said his first word (it was Geek in case you were wondering), I think my heart got just that little bit bigger. 🙂
10. Tell us one thing that made you proud of yourself
I am proud that this year has seen me REALLY grow as a person. I have stopped being entirely selfish and started putting others first. I’ve started to stand up for myself and demand that those around me raise their games as well. I have allowed myself to believe that I am part of a TEAM and not just a loner whom no one loves. I have given myself completely to my son and tried to reveal the best of myself to him.
11. Tell us one challenge you overcame
The obvious answer is I overcame my infertility issues!
12. Tell us three things you would like to change about your life in 2011
1. I would like to become more physically fit and healthy than I was in 2011.
2. I would like to plan better and thus give my son some amazing first memories of all the important holidays and events that will be coming his way this year.
3. I would like to be more outgoing, getting to know people in person rather than hiding behind my online persona.
Well that was fun! I guess I’m meant to tag some others to do this, but I don’t want to make anyone feel obligated. So I will say that ALL of you who read this are tagged and asked to respond in some way. Do your thing!