I was asked to review this book as part of my participation with the Off the Shelf Bloggers group. I received a free digital copy for the purposes of my review.
From the Description: Angry Birds and Killer Bees is a book that can help you turn “The Talk” into an ongoing conversation that counters the myriad sources of bad information children are exposed to on a daily basis and helps them understand the beauty of true intimacy.
This book is for all intents and purposes a manual on how to speak to your children about sex. It urges parents to get over their innate fear of the subject matter and really go in depth to teach kids about more than just the mechanics of which part goes where. Discussing love and intimacy along with the physical side of intercourse, it explains the importance of keeping an open dialogue with children about the subject.
What I Liked: Though this is a book which deals as much with the religious and spiritual aspects of sex as anything else, I was very pleased to find that the author does not assume that all parents who read it were innocent virgins before they got married – or even that they are married at all. The advice within the book is all about coming to terms with your own past in a way that will allow you to learn from your experiences and pass that knowledge on to your own children.
Bowman explains several times that talking about sex with your kids will not have a detrimental effect on them or turn them into sex-crazed teens. In actuality, by having an ongoing conversation about sex and intimacy, as well as all of the embarrassing details of such, your children are more likely to open up to you about their worries, fears and urges.
What I Disliked: I did feel like Bowman was looking for trouble when he began the book by discussing how much sex is hidden in children’s movies (i.e. – the song Sexy and I Know It from Madagascar 3 or the bare buttocks of the triplets being shown in Disney’s Brave). I personally count on the innocence of youth to not think twice about such messages, and I feel it is going too far to equate baby’s bums with sexuality. However, Bowman isn’t over-reaching too much, and I think he has valid points about the music.
Final Thoughts: This book is best utilized by families who are looking for ways to marry the religious and scientific aspects of sex so they can speak to their children in a cohesive way. But it is still a useful tool for non-religious parents, as it gives great advice on how to have “the talk” with any young person. It is an especially good tool if you never had or had an embarrassing talk with your parents.
All in all, it is a worthwhile book for those navigating the tricky waters of sexual education.