It's a BOY! (Again…)

Well, yesterday was the day! The day we went off to downtown Orlando to have our anatomy scan with the specialists. And what an exciting and emotional visit it was!

We started the appointment with the usual weight and blood pressure checks. I had a chat about my background and previous pregnancy with the diabetic specialist nurse, and I was given more information about what they expect to see from me and how they want me to record my dietary decisions. I was given a booklet with a diet plan to follow and told that my numbers are still concerning and they want to see a big improvement quickly or I will be put on insulin. Eep!

I then returned to the waiting room with Mark and Dexter for a short wait before we were called back in for the sonogram.

20 week scan face
Somewhat demonic looking fetus!

We were told that we’d first get an ultrasound from the main technician. Then, a student sonographer would be having a look around for a bit, and finally the doctor would come in and have a final look and discuss everything with us.

So we settled in to see our beautiful little baby on screen. Mark was still completely convinced that we’d be hearing those magic words very soon, “It’s a girl.” But right at the start, I was sure I saw the unmistakable signs of a boy.  The sonographer, however, said she couldn’t get a good look and would come back to it.

She showed us our gorgeous baby’s face, the little arms and fingers, close-ups of the toes and hands… She spent a bit of time on the heart, trying to get good photos and different angles, which didn’t worry me at all, as I remember the same happening with Dexter.

Then, she made the announcement, “Well, I know what it is now…” And before she said the words, it was evident right on screen. A bouncing baby boy. πŸ˜€

Yes, that’s a penis.

She then switched to 4D mode, and we had a lovely few minutes getting closer looks at his little face. It was magical.

20 week scan 4d
20 week scan 4d

Finally, she was satisfied she’d got all her measurements, and she went off to talk to the doctor while the student played around with the machine, getting some hands on experience. I didn’t mind at all, as it gave us more time to see our little man.

Finally, the doctor came by. He was quite brusque, and he had an accent that made it slightly difficult to understand him at times, but he seemed competent. He asked about my previous diagnosis of Long QT Syndrome, a heart anomaly that is inherited. I explained that I didn’t know anything about it except that they told me I had it. He had another doctor listen to my chest (as the nurse had earlier), and neither of them could find a problem.

But the next thing I knew, he was showing us a big white spot on our baby’s heart. He called in an “echogenic focus” and said it was a calcification on the thread that opens and closes the heart. He said that it is found in about 15% of babies and it COULD be nothing, but it can also be a soft marker for Down Syndrome.

He was looking at the other measurements that had been taken (especially the nuchal fold) to figure out if there were any other markers, and he said that it looked okay, but because the baby was moving so much, it was harder to tell for sure.

He said that he wanted me back in four weeks time so that he could do an echocardiogram on the baby to figure out if the heart problem was going to be an issue.

After another quick chat with the nurse and some blood being drawn to check my thyroid, we left the appointment slightly worried about the baby, but telling ourselves that 15% is a pretty high number and we shouldn’t be too concerned.

When we got home, I looked it up, and I found the number is actually more like 8%, but I read some other women’s experiences and most of them turned out to be nothing. This reassured me greatly!

However, this morning I read something else that worried me a bit. An article suggested that when an echogenic focus is found on the heart, a doctor will usually just order a second ultrasound for a few week’s time. Only when they have reason to suspect it is not nothing do they usually do an echocardiogram.

So now I am slightly more worried about the baby, though I have told myself that no matter what happens, we are going to be able to deal with it. Down Syndrome is the least of my concerns, if I’m honest. I have been lucky enough to know some amazing kids and adults with it to know that they can fill your life with sunshine and light. But the inherent medical issues that are associated with it are what scare me the most.

Still, for now we are going to simply bask in the knowledge that we are having a beautiful baby boy in our future. We’ll worry about the rest if and when we know there is something to worry about.

And for now? We’re having great fun choosing baby names! Our tentative choice for the moment is Vincent James Fenix Reed. We’ll see if it sticks! Dexter’s name changed at the last minute, and there’s every chance this one could, too. But right now it feels good to have something to call my bump other than Oswynn (the name we had picked out for a girl!).

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Katie Reed

Katie Reed

Katie Reed is a 38 year old mom blogger from Salt Lake City, UT. She is married to the man of her dreams and together they have four beautiful boys. Dexter is 9, Daniel is 7, Chester is 5 and Wilder is 2. She writes about living with mental health issues while navigating motherhood. Her blog focuses on tips and tricks for moms, information and parenting news, kid-friendly recipes and crafts. She loves to reflect on the humorous side of parenthood and shares the reality of her life, with a "warts and all" attitude.

22 Responses

  1. Ok this might help calm your mind until you have your next scan. I had a nuchal fold triple test at 11 weeks with the bug, and was given a 1:11 chance of Downs Syndrome. I was terrified and had a cvs which said not Downs and not cystic fibrosis. The thickness of the nuchal fold was such that they still had me on “special observations” until 24 weeks. The next most likely cause was deemed to be a heard problem, so I had a detailed heart scan on him at Harefield at 19 weeks. They decided it was fine. I panicked until 42 weeks, had him, and he is perfect
    Same for you hopefully x

    1. Thanks for sharing your experience, hon. I appreciate it. For us, none of the other signs are there for DS, so I’m just hoping that in four weeks time the white spot on the heart will have gone away and we will be back to stress-free! πŸ™‚ I’m keeping positive. If it wasn’t for having had to take the meds I had to take earlier in the pregnancy, it wouldn’t worry me so much, but all I can think about is what if that is the cause?! Eep!

  2. Ok this might help calm your mind until you have your next scan. I had a nuchal fold triple test at 11 weeks with the bug, and was given a 1:11 chance of Downs Syndrome. I was terrified and had a cvs which said not Downs and not cystic fibrosis. The thickness of the nuchal fold was such that they still had me on “special observations” until 24 weeks. The next most likely cause was deemed to be a heard problem, so I had a detailed heart scan on him at Harefield at 19 weeks. They decided it was fine. I panicked until 42 weeks, had him, and he is perfect
    Same for you hopefully x

    1. Thanks for sharing your experience, hon. I appreciate it. For us, none of the other signs are there for DS, so I’m just hoping that in four weeks time the white spot on the heart will have gone away and we will be back to stress-free! πŸ™‚ I’m keeping positive. If it wasn’t for having had to take the meds I had to take earlier in the pregnancy, it wouldn’t worry me so much, but all I can think about is what if that is the cause?! Eep!

  3. I REALLY feel for you. It seems that everything that can be thrown at you is being. I take great heart from your comment about next time. You are so, so brave. I know it is hard but at the moment you can only worry about what you know, which at the moment is unknown. Try to relax and enjoy yourself a bit. πŸ™‚

    1. Thank you so much, hon. I do feel this has been a pretty traumatic pregnancy so far, but I know it’ll all be worth it in the end when I have that beautiful little boy to take home. I’d go through far worse for this little man. πŸ™‚

  4. I REALLY feel for you. It seems that everything that can be thrown at you is being. I take great heart from your comment about next time. You are so, so brave. I know it is hard but at the moment you can only worry about what you know, which at the moment is unknown. Try to relax and enjoy yourself a bit. πŸ™‚

    1. Thank you so much, hon. I do feel this has been a pretty traumatic pregnancy so far, but I know it’ll all be worth it in the end when I have that beautiful little boy to take home. I’d go through far worse for this little man. πŸ™‚

  5. Firstly big congratulations! I had a pretty similar experience to Actually Mummy with my last little boy. I spent ages looking at the stats – the 1 in chances. His nuchal fold was so high that there was a high chance that there was something wrong. He is a happy little chappy that appears perfectly healthy. I cant tell you not to worry, because you will. I can tell you not to go over the stats – there is nothing you can do. The best thing you can do is have the tests so that if there is something wrong then the doctors are prepared to do what ever is required when your little boy arrives. xxx

    1. Thank you Louise. I think that’s exactly how I’m trying to deal with this. There’s no use worrying until there is something to worry about. πŸ™‚ Thank you for sharing your experience. It really raises my morale!

  6. Firstly big congratulations! I had a pretty similar experience to Actually Mummy with my last little boy. I spent ages looking at the stats – the 1 in chances. His nuchal fold was so high that there was a high chance that there was something wrong. He is a happy little chappy that appears perfectly healthy. I cant tell you not to worry, because you will. I can tell you not to go over the stats – there is nothing you can do. The best thing you can do is have the tests so that if there is something wrong then the doctors are prepared to do what ever is required when your little boy arrives. xxx

    1. Thank you Louise. I think that’s exactly how I’m trying to deal with this. There’s no use worrying until there is something to worry about. πŸ™‚ Thank you for sharing your experience. It really raises my morale!

  7. I’m in France and I had an interesting discussion with my sonographer last time I was pregnant. He said that there are so many parents now that sue doctors who overlooked defects and problems during routine scans that they now flag up EVERYTHING as a possible risk, just to cover themselves. Sending huge hugs and hoping you get great news at your next scan. Easier said than done but try not to worry – hugs xxxx

    1. Thank you so much hon. And I do think that they have to be extra careful to tell you stuff, and right now I feel worry, but not enough to lose sleep over. Once I have all the facts, then I can decide how to feel. πŸ™‚

  8. I’m in France and I had an interesting discussion with my sonographer last time I was pregnant. He said that there are so many parents now that sue doctors who overlooked defects and problems during routine scans that they now flag up EVERYTHING as a possible risk, just to cover themselves. Sending huge hugs and hoping you get great news at your next scan. Easier said than done but try not to worry – hugs xxxx

    1. Thank you so much hon. And I do think that they have to be extra careful to tell you stuff, and right now I feel worry, but not enough to lose sleep over. Once I have all the facts, then I can decide how to feel. πŸ™‚

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