Why We Need to Stop Making Fun of Donald Trump

I know this will come as a bit of a shock to those who know my stance on Donald Trump. But on the eve of his inauguration, I feel compelled to speak out about something that has been bothering me. That is the fact that every criticism I see of him is focused on ridiculing his looks, his intellect and his way of speaking.

Now I will admit, I don’t like the man. I think he was the wrong choice for President. I think he should not have won, not just because he was completely unqualified, but because we KNOW that there was interference in the vote. However, whatever the circumstances of his win, he was, in fact, validated by the Electoral College that we (however grudgingly) put our faith in.

I would give much to see someone else in the Oval Office, but right now that is not going to happen.

What is bothering me the most at the moment is the blatant hypocrisy from those who speak out against him. I have no problem with anyone who disagrees with his policies and practices. I am right there with those who criticize the way he treats women, minorities and the middle to lower classes. I think he is personally one of the most despicable humans on this Earth. But what I don’t agree with is those who are focusing on other aspects of his countenance.

For instance, the same people who rage about the fact he judges women based on their looks are the ones who call him a Cheeto, an Oompa Loompa or an Orange. His personal grooming choices are subjective, and some may find him handsome, while others find him unappealing. But a person’s decision on how to present themselves, good or bad, should not be something we make fun of. We fight each day to avoid “slut-shaming” and “fat-shaming.” We believe that we should be able to present ourselves to the world how we wish to be seen without fear of judgement or others being rude. We defend those who are tattooed, pierced or who wear unusual clothing or costumes. Not liking a person doesn’t change common decency. In fact, it is petty and reflects badly on the person doing the shaming.

Let’s talk about those who refer to him as Drumpf. This, too, is an incredibly disrespectful thing to do. Certainly I understand that his family’s name was once Drumpf. I also get that using the name was encouraged by John Oliver to point out how manufactured Donald Trump really is, as well as to reiterate the fact that his family are very recent immigrants to this country. However, I would remind you that Donald’s own name was NEVER Drumpf. He did not change it. He was born Donald Trump, and in that regard, he was not manufacturing an image.

Refusing to use a person’s real name is one of the most degrading and disrespectful things you can do. Sigmund Freud believed that purposefully mispronouncing someone’s name was an intentional statement of power, a disrespect that essentially said “you are not important enough for me to call you by your given name.” Previously, George H.W. Bush continually mispronounced Saddam Hussein’s name for this very reason.

I get that those using the Drumpf moniker feel exactly that way. They disrespect Donald Trump, and they want him to know it. But is it doing more harm than good? According to experts, what you are putting out will be reflected back at you. By openly disrespecting someone, you are giving them more reason to continue in their bad behavior. The onus is on you (and all of us) to remain civil, fair, impartial and composed. By doing so, you can be far more effective.

Again, the hypocrisy is evident here – we criticize Donald Trump for his disrespectful attitudes toward people, so we are then disrespectful back. The cycle repeats indefinitely until someone decides to be the bigger person.

The way a man speaks, the color of his tie, or his “tiny  hands” are not important things when it comes to a Presidential nominee. Sure, they are easy to cling to, and we feel better for a while by pointing out his “inadequacies” as a human. But is it really the best way to be? How is this different from the many nasty comments on Michelle Obama’s weight or Barack’s big ears?

I know that the majority of us feel helpless in stopping the madness we feel is coming. But continuing to judge the superficial aspects of one man is taking time, energy and attention away from what is important. Namely, we need to keep our criticisms objective, focused and defendable.

Donald Trump is about to take office in the most powerful position in the world. Like it or not, he is going to determine our future for at least the next four years, and possibly nearly a decade. I urge all of us to reassess how we make our displeasure clear. Instead of whining on Facebook, research which legislators are working in your favor. Call them and congratulate them, thank them and urge them to continue. Those who are not working in your favor, call them up and complain. Do it daily if necessary. Make them remember your name. If you want to replace Trump in four years, focus on helping to find a candidate you can TRULY get behind. Work to make others get behind them, too.

Our focus should be on finding a new candidate that will truly be a voice of the people. Not the “silent majority” who aren’t a majority at all, but the people who truly need someone to work for them. Our focus should be in watching Donald Trump and all of his appointed team like a hawk. Keep him constantly accountable. Show him and his minions what the “voice of the people” really is. Our voices can make a difference. But not if we are using them to make fun of the amount of self tanner our President uses.

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Katie Reed

Katie Reed

Katie Reed is a 38 year old mom blogger from Salt Lake City, UT. She is married to the man of her dreams and together they have four beautiful boys. Dexter is 9, Daniel is 7, Chester is 5 and Wilder is 2. She writes about living with mental health issues while navigating motherhood. Her blog focuses on tips and tricks for moms, information and parenting news, kid-friendly recipes and crafts. She loves to reflect on the humorous side of parenthood and shares the reality of her life, with a "warts and all" attitude.

6 Responses

  1. I love what you have said. I’m not sure I’m qualified to comment as I British and live in the UK, I don’t even have any relatives in the US, but we have had a lot of coverage here (the news is literally just Trump & Brexit here at the moment) . But I have been thinking the exact same thing as you say. I don’t like Mr Trump and what he stands for but where is the higher ground? How can you criticise someone for being disrespectful whilst being disrespectful yourself. That said, all the marches yesterday made me feel very hopeful for humanity (even if some of the banners and signs were a little more than I would have wanted to say)

  2. I do want to say that one of the reasons that people are afraid is that the media are very negative when it comes to Trump. He can do 10 good things but 1 that isn’t so good and that is what they will focus on. He’s already saved jobs and he’s just started. He wants to save jobs and help our economy. He will appoint a conservative chief justice. That alone can make a considerable difference in the future. Can people focus on what’s important? Turn off the fake news, a lot of which is not only slanted but inflammatory. Judge what Trump does. Look at your 401K in a few years. Let’s give this man a chance to do what he was elected to do… fix this flagging economy. Thanks for bringing up this most important topic. What happened to civility in America? Best wishes, Linda

  3. thank you for this post! this is exactly what i feel, there’s this double standard when it comes to trump. the love trumps hate campaign is hypocritical if your behavior towards him or others (regardless of politics) is hateful. and all the children who went to the marches, or are hearing that it’s ok to call names or make fun of others, and celebrities that are also doing it with a microphone and a giant platform,,,where’s the respect you say you are teaching your kids?! there’s a way to stand up for what’s right and be the bigger person that doesn’t turn you into the bully you claim to rally against. i also think this divides us even more as a country, and it is looked as a weakness that we now have if we can’t at least appear united for our country.
    b

  4. You are right about the lack of common decency and civility in our nation. Spitting on gold star families, picking on a 10 year old, and screaming you want to blow up WH are just a few examples that should not ever be tolerated in modern society. The women’s march that didn’t speak for all women and was lacking in any kind of organized view lead me to question marchers sanity. Did they forget they live in America where they do have rights as opposed to other countries that enslave, torture, and kill women over nothing? Crying over an election? Please, we stood by while Barack divided our nation and made us all feel unsafe. It is time for Trump to be given a chance. If it doesn’t pan out then use your rights to vote him out. Just stop this madness.

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