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The Worst Baby Advice Ever Collected

It seems like as soon as you get pregnant, everyone is ready to give you parenting advice. Sometimes you ask for it, but quite often, you are bombarded with the thoughts and opinions of every person you meet. It’s especially fun when the person giving the advice has no children of their own!

From my first pregnancy to this one, I’ve been bombarded with advice from every mother, father and caretaker under the sun. And some of it has been invaluable. I’ll never forget the person who suggested I try breastfeeding while laying on my side. That one changed my life!

But there have been some utter crackers over time which never cease to amaze me. And most of them come from strangers on the street. You know – the kind that have no qualms about coming over and grabbing your belly and bellowing out, “You’re ready to POP!” when you are still 4 months away from your due date. These are the people who think it is their god-given duty to shower you with their specialist knowledge of pregnancy, birth and life going forward.

Some utter gems have been bestowed on me lately.

There was the lady down at Wal Mart who told me,

if you have an epidural, your baby will come out drugged and develop a taste for drugs later in life.”

She was 8 months pregnant herself and proudly regaled me with her EIGHT birth stories, “all without a single drug.” I wonder if she got a merit badge or some sort of trophy?

I mean, seriously… I had an epidural with Dexter, even though I wanted to make it through on my own. By the time I got to seven centimeters dilated, I was scared and worried about the pain. Having a lovely soothing drug meant that my blood pressure and heart rate improved, and I managed to get through with a fairly simple birth. My son had no ill effects, and he actually was one of the most alert babies the midwives had ever seen. He was not “drugged” in any way, and having chosen the pain relief, we all had a much easier time.

Of course, it doesn’t stop at birth, though. People have opinions on how you raise your child, as well. My current favorite comes from a so-called friend of mine who was dead serious when she said,

If you keep letting your son wear pink and play with that Barbie doll, you’re going to make him gay.”

Because, of course, we all know that them darn gays are made from kids who play with the wrong toys growing up.

It boggles the mind! Nevermind the fact that she said it as if being gay was the worst possible thing that could happen to a kid. Like I would regret not forcing a GI Joe on him instead of “giving in” and letting him have fun with any toy that strikes his fancy.

I had to wonder if it was just me who seemed to invite unwanted and ridiculous advice and opinions from people. So I asked some other mommy bloggers for their experiences. And I wasn’t disappointed.

Bad Advice Ahead

Caterpillar Tales wrote:

After a nightmare hour in the doctor’s waiting room, with a toddler at his supper time, bored and running around, trying to climb the stairs, and me following him around with a newborn baby attached to my boob, I sat down exhausted for a minute with both of them on my knee, the baby crying, and an old biddy said “That baby needs a dummy.” It was one of the lowest points of my parenting life. To this day I regret not saying “No, he needs to breastfeed in peace without me moving around and making him sick, and his brother needs his supper and to go to bed. And I need you to leave me alone and stop interfering.”

The Blunt Truth wrote:

When I was discharged from hospital 6 hours after giving birth to my 3rd son, a member of staff in the delivery unit told me I needed to try again to get a little girl. I wasn’t impressed.”

Hex Mum Blog wrote:

I have been asked with all of my six if they are planned! Whilst on holiday heavily pregnant with number five, a woman walked past us and shouted ever heard of contraception! What she didn’t bank on was my husband following her into the shop to explain that yes we had heard of contraception and we have chosen to have a large family, that he worked extremely hard to provide for his family and its a shame that some people were so judgemental!!”

Mummy Glitzer wrote:

 The thing that annoyed me most when I was pregnant was people saying ‘Sleep before the baby arrives, you won’t get much when he does.’ Like you can somehow bank sleep and withdraw from a reserve at a later date…”

Mother’s Always Right wrote:

 When I was pregnant I was told that because my bump was all out the front I would be having a boy, which in turn meant I’d have a terrible labour!”

It’s bad enough inflicting silly advice on first time mothers (like when a grandfatherly figure suggested giving my son a lump of jerky to help him through teething – hello choking hazard!), but it doesn’t get ANY better when you go on to have further children. In fact, you get the SAME advice from the SAME people and extra bits of crazy from strangers.

So what can we do? Smile and nod along and keep your thoughts to yourself? Or tell these folks just what we think of their “advice?”

What’s the worst advice you’ve had when it comes to motherhood? Let’s make each other smile and laugh.

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Katie Reed

Katie Reed

Katie Reed is a 38 year old mom blogger from Salt Lake City, UT. She is married to the man of her dreams and together they have four beautiful boys. Dexter is 9, Daniel is 7, Chester is 5 and Wilder is 2. She writes about living with mental health issues while navigating motherhood. Her blog focuses on tips and tricks for moms, information and parenting news, kid-friendly recipes and crafts. She loves to reflect on the humorous side of parenthood and shares the reality of her life, with a "warts and all" attitude.

17 Responses

  1. The best parenting advice I ever had was from our mutual friends Bruce and Carol who said their advice was to ignore all advice on parenting from everybody 😉 And the worst (can’t remember where from) was to give my babies tea. Seriously, does anybody actually do that any more?

    1. That is GREAT advice, for sure. So many people feel a need to stick their oar in, and it’s nice when you can hear from someone who knows the best thing is to just go with your own opinions! 😉

      And it’s amazing how many people have been advised to give their baby tea! I’ve heard that from SO many people!

  2. The best parenting advice I ever had was from our mutual friends Bruce and Carol who said their advice was to ignore all advice on parenting from everybody 😉 And the worst (can’t remember where from) was to give my babies tea. Seriously, does anybody actually do that any more?

    1. That is GREAT advice, for sure. So many people feel a need to stick their oar in, and it’s nice when you can hear from someone who knows the best thing is to just go with your own opinions! 😉

      And it’s amazing how many people have been advised to give their baby tea! I’ve heard that from SO many people!

  3. I think the best thing anyone ever said to me when I became a Mum was that it never gets easier, it just gets different. So very true in so many ways!
    I can’t actually remember any bad advice but I think thats because I chose not to listen and go with my own instincts! 😉

    1. Very wise. Best to just forget anyone who tries to give you unwarranted opinions! 🙂

      I also like the good advice you got. I certainly know that’s been MY experience! Different every single day! 🙂

  4. I think the best thing anyone ever said to me when I became a Mum was that it never gets easier, it just gets different. So very true in so many ways!
    I can’t actually remember any bad advice but I think thats because I chose not to listen and go with my own instincts! 😉

    1. Very wise. Best to just forget anyone who tries to give you unwarranted opinions! 🙂

      I also like the good advice you got. I certainly know that’s been MY experience! Different every single day! 🙂

  5. I have two. Prior to taking my then 3 year old overseas, I asked some parents at her preschool how I could occupy her on the plane, one mom responded “you know those tiny liquor bottles? Well, buy about 5 of them and slip them in her Sippy Cup.” Hmmmm, no.

    Next gem – “start spanking at 2, that way he will know who’s boss.” That was from someone who chose NOT to have children and pretty much hated them. She worked in a public school, of course.

    1. Oh my goodness, those are two really terrible pieces of advice! And you’re not the only one who has been suggested liquor! I’ve had it suggested for calming a baby, getting them to sleep, soothing them during teething, etc. It seems to be everyone’s magic remedy! 😉

      As for spanking, I just don’t believe in it at all, so I would very much be opposed to that particular piece of advice!

  6. I have two. Prior to taking my then 3 year old overseas, I asked some parents at her preschool how I could occupy her on the plane, one mom responded “you know those tiny liquor bottles? Well, buy about 5 of them and slip them in her Sippy Cup.” Hmmmm, no.

    Next gem – “start spanking at 2, that way he will know who’s boss.” That was from someone who chose NOT to have children and pretty much hated them. She worked in a public school, of course.

    1. Oh my goodness, those are two really terrible pieces of advice! And you’re not the only one who has been suggested liquor! I’ve had it suggested for calming a baby, getting them to sleep, soothing them during teething, etc. It seems to be everyone’s magic remedy! 😉

      As for spanking, I just don’t believe in it at all, so I would very much be opposed to that particular piece of advice!

  7. I enjoyed your post and all of the comments. Ok – here’s the advice that stands out in my memory…I was told by a mother of 4 that it was “just as easy to diaper two babies as it is to diaper one.” So I had my 2nd child 14 months after the 1st child and all I did WAS diaper them. The mother neglected to inform my 22 year old self that diapering (& feeding of course) was all I’d be doing! Reia from http://www.southcountrysides.blogspot.com

    1. Aw, bless you! I was so hoping to be able to get my son potty trained before baby number 2 came along, but sadly I think it’s gone out the window. So I’ll be diapering two as well. Luckily Dexter will be 2 years (barely) when his brother arrives, so he’s a LITTLE easier than a 14 month old! 😉

  8. I enjoyed your post and all of the comments. Ok – here’s the advice that stands out in my memory…I was told by a mother of 4 that it was “just as easy to diaper two babies as it is to diaper one.” So I had my 2nd child 14 months after the 1st child and all I did WAS diaper them. The mother neglected to inform my 22 year old self that diapering (& feeding of course) was all I’d be doing! Reia from http://www.southcountrysides.blogspot.com

    1. Aw, bless you! I was so hoping to be able to get my son potty trained before baby number 2 came along, but sadly I think it’s gone out the window. So I’ll be diapering two as well. Luckily Dexter will be 2 years (barely) when his brother arrives, so he’s a LITTLE easier than a 14 month old! 😉

  9. Aw, bless you! I was so hoping to be able to get my son potty trained before baby number 2 came along, but sadly I think it’s gone out the window. So I’ll be diapering two as well. Luckily Dexter will be 2 years (barely) when his brother arrives, so he’s a LITTLE easier than a 14 month old! 😉

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