I look at my children every day. I take a million photos. I see the love between them grow each day, and I am so thankful that they have each other. With almost exactly two years between them (their birthdays are only 4 days apart), they will have a best friend for life in each other.
But so much changes day to day. I remember when we brought Daniel home from the hospital, and Dexter was not best pleased to have this squalling thing cuddled up to his mommy every second of the day. But as the days turned to weeks and then months, and now almost a year, their dynamic has changed. Where once Dexter was far too rough with his little brother, he now takes great care to be gentle, ensuring that “the baby” (as he calls him) is cared for. Of course, Daniel has no such concerns.
For a not-quite-one-year-old, he is incredibly rough and tumble. He likes to climb and claw and hit and scream and play. At daycare, his teachers tell me they can’t wait until he leaves the nursery and goes into the one year old room. He’s far too rough with the other babies, and the other week, his 4’8″ 90 lb teacher told me that he pushed her over and smashed her face into the floor, laughing gleefully as he did it. He has all the makings of a bully. It is quite scary.
Since he walks now, he is far more likely to grab onto your shirt and yank you down to his level so he can grab your face and scream gleefully. He follows Dexter around like a lost puppy dog, and it makes for quite a scene when Dexter comes running to me for help because he can’t shake his little brother.
I admit, I laugh.
But on the other hand, they are the best of friends. Dexter shows him how to use the computer. They hold hands as they walk together along the beach. They cuddle together as they watch Disney movies. They are brothers.
How do a three year old and a one year old understand so much about the world? They seem to inherently understand that love is the answer to everything. Whatever frustrations they may have with each other, they are always solved with a hug and a kiss. Their smiles when they are playing will light up any room, and they make my heart beat fast with their hand-in-hand explorations of the world around them.