Oh my gosh, I can’t believe it! Another month has rolled around, and suddenly we have another sibling to add to the mix! Dexter and Daniel, who have been each other’s best friends for almost two years, are now joined by baby Chester, the newest addition to the Reed Clan. And what an amazing addition he is!
As you can imagine, the relationships between children has changed a LOT in the last three weeks. Finding a “new normal” has been an interesting journey for my boys. Each of them has his own special relationship with the new baby.
For Dexter, he kind of sees Chester as the annoying new attention-grabber he has to compete with. Suddenly, he’s not allowed to sleep in mommy and daddy’s bed anymore because that’s where the baby sleeps. And mommy isn’t giving in as easily when he makes his outlandish demands for food, drink or treats because she is always busy holding/feeding the baby. While Dex clearly loves his new brother, he is used to getting his way and is having to learn patience and understanding.
For Daniel, baby Chester is a new best friend. He’s a new toy for him to play with. So many times, we’ve had to remind Dan to be gentle and loving with his brother because his natural instinct is to grab, poke, smack and even TASTE him. “Be gentle” is the phrase most often uttered these days.
And while both of them enjoy watching their strange new brother, they still prefer each other’s company above all else.
Our morning routines have probably taken the biggest turn. Previously, both boys would come into mommy’s bed and jump around for a while before we fought them to get them dressed and taken to school. Now, though, with the baby in our bed, Dexter has taken the initiative to get himself dressed, use the toilet and get his backpack ready. He even picks out clothes for Dan to wear. Daniel, still not ready to give up morning cuddles, is much more laid back in the mornings now. He comes in and just lays next to me and Chester, stroking his brother’s face and loving on him. It’s precious.
There’s not much fun in a new baby for older brothers, though. He can’t talk or play or run around with them, so besides watching him sleep and asking questions about him, they aren’t much interested yet. I can’t wait to see how their relationship changes as the weeks and months pass. I hope that their friendship will open to include the littlest brother.
Something tells me they’ll be just fine.