When I posted last month’s Siblings Photoshoot, I was not sure if the new baby would arrive or not before this month’s! I’ve been savoring every last second of my two boys being each other’s only brother, but the time is near when we’ll be adding to the brood, and so this particular month is extra special for us.
I knew I wanted to do something to commemorate our first “real” autumn in a long time, so I took the boy’s to a very beautiful local spot to take some pictures. I tried to dress them in coordinating (but not matching) outfits – jeans and plaid shirts – to really play up how similar they are, while capturing their differences. I was really very excited to just let them play and explore and see what magic I could capture.
Before we left the house, Dexter found one of my old winter hats that I bought in Amsterdam when Mark and I first met. At first I tried to get him to remove it, but very quickly I realized that him wearing that hat was VERY indicative of his personality. He is an amazing kid, and if wearing the hat made him happy, who was I to inhibit him??
If you’ve followed our monthly photo shoots, another thing you may notice is that this month is one of the first where Dexter is smiling and laughing in almost every photo. He’s normally a very reserved kid, and while he is a happy one, he is conservative with his smiles when there’s a camera around. But lately, especially over the last few weeks, he’s been opening up a lot more. He’s taken big strides in how he interacts with people, and I am so proud of him. He’s much less shy. He will go up to complete strangers – children and adults alike – and say hello with no prodding. He is trying to teach his little brother about the world, instructing him in how to behave in every circumstance.
He is becoming a very sweet and well-rounded little boy.
Daniel, on the other hand, has become a bit more reserved. He’s always been the outgoing one – the daredevil – the whirling dervish. And while he is still always smiling and laughing and getting into trouble, he’s started to settle down a bit. He is now happier to sit on my lap and watch a tv program or to lay beside me in bed without crawling all over the place. He is learning patience and how to wait for what he wants.
The bond between my two sons is strengthened each day, as they navigate the big scary world together. Every morning they walk to school holding hands, and I get a report from Dexter every afternoon about whether or not Daniel has had a good day. While Daniel still sleeps in his crib most of the time, they now have a queen sized bed that they often end up sharing when he wakes up crying in the night.
Daniel loves hugs and cuddles and kisses more than any child I’ve ever known. He never needs to be asked twice. And he offers up his love to anyone who shows him the slightest attention. He’s also incredibly helpful. He loves to help clean up toys or messes. If you give him something to throw in the trash or put in the sink, he has no hesitation in doing so. He lives to help.
The best thing of all is how they play together. Dexter may direct him (read: boss him around) a lot, but Daniel will take it in stride as long as he feels it’s fair. If he doesn’t, he will stand up for himself, and Dexter will usually back down and realize he’s being unfair.
I love to watch them together and know that they are happiest with each other.
I can’t wait to see what new changes will come once the baby arrives. For sure next month’s update is going to be interesting!!