Comments on: A Wave of Light – Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day

By: John

John — Sat, 18 Oct 2014 12:40:09 +0000

Such a beautiful and informative post.Being pregnant is really exciting, and having a baby is the most amazing thing that can happen in our lives.

By: Lauranne

Lauranne — Thu, 16 Oct 2014 12:49:05 +0000

A brilliant post. I have PCOS and was also told by a very uncaring doctor I would probably struggle to get pregnant. However I have now been told that actually that isn’t the case anymore and I’m no more or less likely to get pregnant than anyone else. I can’t imagine the loss of loosing a child, and you’re right it’s one of those subjects that isn’t kinda dealt with. It’s a little awkward. I know a couple of people who are struggling to get pregnant, and have had miscarriages. When I see them I want to ask how they are, if there’s any news? but then I worry by doing so I am over stepping a line and so I don’t and then worry that they think I don’t care! Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy!

By: Randi

Randi — Thu, 16 Oct 2014 00:42:06 +0000

Beautiful post. Wonderfully said.

By: Elaine Berrie

Elaine Berrie — Thu, 16 Oct 2014 00:12:04 +0000

Such a wonderful post. I will be lighting a candle for my grandson.

And if you read this Nella please do as the author suggests and reach out for help. you deserve to have closure. You don’t have to cope alone darling.

#waveoflight

By: Katie Reed

Katie Reed — Wed, 15 Oct 2014 23:43:18 +0000

In reply to David Blye. David - thank you so much for sharing this. It is true that there is no gender gap when it comes to the grief of losing one's child. I am so sorry for what you and your wife have gone through, and I hope that you have been able to find happiness in the two beautiful babies you have been blessed with.

By: Katie Reed

Katie Reed — Wed, 15 Oct 2014 23:42:08 +0000

In reply to Nella.

I am so so so sorry to read this, Nella. I would urge you to contact your doctor and get in contact with a grief counselor or someone you can trust to help you to recover. Seven years is too long a time to feel so desolate. We all grieve in our own ways, and I know time can’t magically heal us – but we can learn to cope with our grief with help. Putting yourself in god’s hands may help you feel better, but remember that he helps those who help themselves. You must reach out for strength if yours is ebbing. I have emailed you my contact details in case you need to talk to someone. Please please know that there is help out there. I’m sending you so much love right now.

By: Hannah

Hannah — Wed, 15 Oct 2014 23:36:08 +0000

Beautiful post. I’m so sorry you went thru that.

By: David Blye

David Blye — Wed, 15 Oct 2014 22:57:42 +0000

It is not only a mother’s loss when a baby’s life is ended. I wish there were more articles written for fathers who have lost their children. I have been heartbroken by my wife’s miscarriages. We are lucky to have two very healthy children now, but each loss was hard on us both. It is okay for a man to cry over a lost life. Especally when it is his own child.

By: Nella

Nella — Wed, 15 Oct 2014 20:31:01 +0000

I cried reading this. It has been 7 years since I lost my one and only chance at having my own child. We were never expected to get pregnant, and I was over the moon to have defied the odds and naturally got pregnant with twins. I lost the first one at 22 weeks (we named her Alana – “beautiful dear child”), which was heartbreaking. But we told ourselves we still had our saving Grace. She was born sleeping six weeks later. I had to have a full hysterectomy after this trauma, which was enough to make me suicidal. My heart still feels broken, and I don’t know how to get past it. I pray to the good Lord above to take my pain away so that I can live life fully and tell my babies all about it when I reach them in Heaven. I want to live the life they never got. But I can’t help but wallow in my own misery. My marriage ended because I couldn’t get over what happened to us. My ex husband and I haven’t spoken in four years because it is too hard. I just keep praying for mercy from the Almighty to bring me peace. I would never take my life because I want to see my babies in Heaven. But I pray every day that God either takes my pain away or takes me up to be with my angels.

By: Aimee

Aimee — Wed, 15 Oct 2014 19:23:03 +0000

Beautifully sad. Thank you for sharing.